Women at works dilema

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A woman at works Husbands Dad passed away at Christmas just gone - Leaving a his Mum as a widow. The Mum is 65 years old.

The Mum had six months mourning. She was invited on a holiday by her ex-husbands brother last month ( Her Brother in Law). It was a caravan holiday in the UK.

As you can probably guess the mother in law ended getting it on with her ex brother in law ( Brother to her dead husband). They are now meeting regualrly for sordid sex sessions.

The Mother in Law has now confessed all but begged the woman I work with to keep mum.

Her dilema is she is keeping from her husband that his Mum is now sleeping with his Uncle.

Personally I think she should tell her husand as he has a right to know. Other friends of hers says she should keep quiet. She thinks she should not tell her hubby either.

Before anyone asks they are not from Col******r or East London.

Settle this debate lads. The judges decision is final.  

 

[South Bank Hank]

Quote[/b] (Dave the Shrimper @ July 21 2006,13:37)]The Mother in Law has now confessed all but begged the woman I work with to keep mum.

Her dilema is she is keeping from her husband that his Mum is now sleeping with his Uncle.

Hmmm, tough call. You'd argue that there should be no secrets between husband and wife. However, if the truth was going to come out, it would be far better to come from the chap's mum.

Unless I've misread the situation, the mother still has every right to be happy. She's done her mourning. And if she's now single, why is she not allowed to move on (notwithstanding that people over sixty shouldn't engage in sexual acts!

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BTW, Dave, please NEVER stop posting on this board!

 

[canveyshrimper]

She has to get on with her life, and should be allowed to do so. I went through a similar thing some years ago after my Dad died, although it was not his brother my Mum met someone about 9 months after Dad died. Initially I was quite upset but realised she had as much right to enjoy the rest of her days as she saw fit. So any objections I may have had I ignored.

I think in the long run honesty is the best policy and it will get worse the longer it drags on in secret, and also the husband will not be happy with his wife keeping the secret.

 

[hexagon_sun]

Jeez, what a mess. The bloke has to be told though and as Hank said, it should come from the mum.

 

[South Bank Hank]

Quote[/b] (hexagon_sun @ July 21 2006,13:50)]Jeez, what a mess. The bloke has to be told though and as Hank said, it should come from the mum.

Yes, and sooner rather than later. Nothing will hurt the chap more than finding out that everyone else knew but him.

 

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Quote[/b] (canveyshrimper @ July 21 2006,13:49)]She has to get on with her life, and should be allowed to do so. I went through a similar thing some years ago after my Dad died, although it was not his brother my Mum met someone about 9 months after Dad died. Initially I was quite upset but realised she had as much right to enjoy the rest of her days as she saw fit. So any objections I may have had I ignored.

I think in the long run honesty is the best policy and it will get worse the longer it drags on in secret, and also the husband will not be happy with his wife keeping the secret.

I personally have no problems with her meeting someone and agree she has every right to be happy but surely getting it on with the dead mans brother is wrong.

I just would do it to my bruv and not just because my brothers bird aint the best.

 

[canveyshrimper]

Quote[/b] (Dave the Shrimper @ July 21 2006,14:10)]

Quote[/b] (canveyshrimper @ July 21 2006,13:49)]She has to get on with her life, and should be allowed to do so. I went through a similar thing some years ago after my Dad died, although it was not his brother my Mum met someone about 9 months after Dad died. Initially I was quite upset but realised she had as much right to enjoy the rest of her days as she saw fit. So any objections I may have had I ignored.

I think in the long run honesty is the best policy and it will get worse the longer it drags on in secret, and also the husband will not be happy with his wife keeping the secret.

I personally have no problems with her meeting someone and agree she has every right to be happy but surely getting it on with the dead mans brother is wrong.  

I just would do it to my bruv and not just because my brothers bird aint the best.  

In many ways it does not matter who it is, but I take the point about the brother, and this sort of thing is always guaranteed to stir things up in families.

However IMO the bloke should be told what is going on.

 

[Matt the Shrimp]

Quote[/b] (Dave the Shrimper @ July 21 2006,14:10)]but surely getting it on with the dead mans brother is wrong.  

Au contraire, it was an old rule that if your sister-in-law was widowed and you were single, then you ought to marry her. Certainly always used to be that way in the church.

It absolutely has to be the Mum who tells the son, not the bloke's wife. Bit unfair of the Mum to blab to her daughter-in-law first; however, the daughter-in-law must now go back to the Mum and put major amounts of pressure on the Mum to tell all... pile on the guilt big style, "I'm cracking up, it's damaging my relationship with your son, I can't handle it, you've put me in a really unfair position", accompanied by the full water-works (birds can pretty much do tears on demand, can't they?).

The Mum will crack and tell the son, surely. And it has to come from her.

That's what I reckon, anyway. Ooh, I feel like Dear Deirdre...

 

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Bit of a split vote so far.

 

[McNasty]

To judge properly , I think we need to be told just how "sordid" the sex sessions are .

 

[beemamad]

Leave out the details tho please, prefer to find out how good/bad oap sex is for myself rather than dread it for 30 odd years !!!

 

[McNasty]

Quote[/b] (Matt the Shrimp @ July 21 2006,17:26)] Ooh, I feel like Dear Deirdre...

and you a recently-wed person.

I hope your good lady doesn't read your posts.

 

[Blue Missy]

Quote[/b] (Matt the Shrimp @ July 21 2006,17:26)]

Quote[/b] (Dave the Shrimper @ July 21 2006,14:10)]but surely getting it on with the dead mans brother is wrong.  

Au contraire, it was an old rule that if your sister-in-law was widowed and you were single, then you ought to marry her.  Certainly always used to be that way in the church.

It absolutely has to be the Mum who tells the son, not the bloke's wife.  Bit unfair of the Mum to blab to her daughter-in-law first; however, the daughter-in-law must now go back to the Mum and put major amounts of pressure on the Mum to tell all... pile on the guilt big style, "I'm cracking up, it's damaging my relationship with your son, I can't handle it, you've put me in a really unfair position", accompanied by the full water-works (birds can pretty much do tears on demand, can't they?).

The Mum will crack and tell the son, surely.  And it has to come from her.

That's what I reckon, anyway.  Ooh, I feel like Dear Deirdre...

Totally agree with Matt on this one - it should be the Mum to tell and the daughter in law needs to pressure her into doing it. The son is going to be mortified if he finds out that his wife has known about this all along and that in turn could affect their relationship.

As with almost everything, honesty is usually the best policy.

 

[Shrimp in a Kilt]

Quote[/b] (Blue Missy @ July 24 2006,09:48)]

Quote[/b] (Matt the Shrimp @ July 21 2006,17:26)]

Quote[/b] (Dave the Shrimper @ July 21 2006,14:10)]but surely getting it on with the dead mans brother is wrong.  

Au contraire, it was an old rule that if your sister-in-law was widowed and you were single, then you ought to marry her.  Certainly always used to be that way in the church.

It absolutely has to be the Mum who tells the son, not the bloke's wife.  Bit unfair of the Mum to blab to her daughter-in-law first; however, the daughter-in-law must now go back to the Mum and put major amounts of pressure on the Mum to tell all... pile on the guilt big style, "I'm cracking up, it's damaging my relationship with your son, I can't handle it, you've put me in a really unfair position", accompanied by the full water-works (birds can pretty much do tears on demand, can't they?).

The Mum will crack and tell the son, surely.  And it has to come from her.

That's what I reckon, anyway.  Ooh, I feel like Dear Deirdre...

Totally agree with Matt on this one - it should be the Mum to tell and the daughter in law needs to pressure her into doing it. The son is going to be mortified if he finds out that his wife has known about this all along and that in turn could affect their relationship.

As with almost everything, honesty is usually the best policy.

Here here!

"Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive."

 

[Slipperduke]

Why not break the news to them via the medium of music?


Darling, I've got some news on your mother,
Darling, she's taken up with another.
Darling, don't get angry and then shove her
Darling, she's with your father's brother!

Incest! It's just like Hamlet, but it's Essex based!
Incest! She's a grown woman and she can't go to waste!

*guitar solo*

Sorry, that probably wasn't very sensitive. And I can't believe I spent 10mins on it.