My FIRST Red Card...

[Forever A Shrimper]

Whilst refereeing the Wickford Town Football Club Tournament this past weekend I ended up issuing my first red card in very rare circumstances.

I awarded a foul against Wickford Town and the offendee walked past the fans of the away side - a middle-aged woman then proceeded to get up and make a conscious effort to go right up to the barriers and scream "You dirty ****er!" to a 7-Year-Old.

There was no two ways about it, she had to go, so there and then I hit on the whistle and the woman had to leave the perimeter of the field with me brandishing my red card. Later, I filed my report and insisted on the woman being ejected from the tournament grounds.

 

[Bluesmanager]

People say that the EPL's to blame for the divign and general unruleliness in football these days.

Partially, yes, but unfortunately muppets like your example are to blame as well

And that's not really anything a 7 year old needs to hear is it.

 

[Sean 2]

Unbelievable.
Yet another instance highlighting my hopes for my son NOT to play football when he grows up.
Whatever happened to enjoying the game?
With any luck we'll be going to Fossett's on a Sat then off round the country watching motor sport on a Sunday.
Having played the game for 30 plus years i've got to say the agressiveness and abuseful behaviour of it's participants of recent years has got worse and i get disheartened by it all.
When i grew up the women on the line would just shout "kick it!"

 

[SUFCLiam]

Whilst refereeing the Wickford Town Football Club Tournament this past weekend I ended up issuing my first red card in very rare circumstances.

I awarded a foul against Wickford Town and the offendee walked past the fans of the away side - a middle-aged woman then proceeded to get up and make a conscious effort to go right up to the barriers and scream "You dirty ****er!" to a 7-Year-Old.

There was no two ways about it, she had to go, so there and then I hit on the whistle and the woman had to leave the perimeter of the field with me brandishing my red card. Later, I filed my report and insisted on the woman being ejected from the tournament grounds.

Who would scream at a 7-year-old "You dirty ****er!"

Well done for the red card

 

[SUFCEssex]

Whilst refereeing the Wickford Town Football Club Tournament this past weekend I ended up issuing my first red card in very rare circumstances.

I awarded a foul against Wickford Town and the offendee walked past the fans of the away side - a middle-aged woman then proceeded to get up and make a conscious effort to go right up to the barriers and scream "You dirty ****er!" to a 7-Year-Old.

There was no two ways about it, she had to go, so there and then I hit on the whistle and the woman had to leave the perimeter of the field with me brandishing my red card. Later, I filed my report and insisted on the woman being ejected from the tournament grounds.

I watch my son every sunday morning during the season and its a pity more refs aren't sending parents away from the pitch, unfortunately the threats they would then receive make life easier to leave the offenders watching the game.

 

[Forever A Shrimper]

I watch my son every sunday morning during the season and its a pity more refs aren't sending parents away from the pitch, unfortunately the threats they would then receive make life easier to leave the offenders watching the game.

Just for the record on a personal level, I am quite keen in stamping out abusiveness in the game and have - on three or four occasions - hit on my whistle very hard, asked for the matchball and told a parent - as I have become infamous for within the SDJSFL - to "Shut up, go home or match abandoned"

 

[OldBlueLady]

Just for the record on a personal level, I am quite keen in stamping out abusiveness in the game and have - on three or four occasions - hit on my whistle very hard, asked for the matchball and told a parent - as I have become infamous for within the SDJSFL - to "Shut up, go home or match abandoned"

Parental behaviour at junior level is often appalling, so good for you in taking this stance.

 

[SUFCEssex]

Parental behaviour at junior level is often appalling, so good for you in taking this stance.

agree, good for you, just be careful, i've seen a parent doing the line punched at half time and ref's threatened and abused. I've stepped in to stop parents and managers fighting before and its not great for the kids to see.

 

[Forever A Shrimper]

agree, good for you, just be careful, i've seen a parent doing the line punched at half time and ref's threatened and abused. I've stepped in to stop parents and managers fighting before and its not great for the kids to see.

I have seen that too, a manager pulling two parents apart from opposite sets of fans. I any of you have seen Green Street it reminded me a lot of the scene where two parents, one a Millwall fan and the other a West Ham fan, proceed to fight in the middle of the pitch whilst there kids are playing.

 

[londonblue]

When i grew up the women on the line would just shout "kick it!"

Or in my mum's case, she would stand on the sidelines chatting with a friend and completely miss me scoring a hattrick! :(

 

[TBV_Dan]

Whilst refereeing the Wickford Town Football Club Tournament this past weekend I ended up issuing my first red card in very rare circumstances.

I awarded a foul against Wickford Town and the offendee walked past the fans of the away side - a middle-aged woman then proceeded to get up and make a conscious effort to go right up to the barriers and scream "You dirty ****er!" to a 7-Year-Old.

There was no two ways about it, she had to go, so there and then I hit on the whistle and the woman had to leave the perimeter of the field with me brandishing my red card. Later, I filed my report and insisted on the woman being ejected from the tournament grounds.

Well done, deserved the red card definately. I remember playing in a match where I slid in and won the ball fairly, and the player, got up and yelled "What did you do that for you F***ing P***k. The ref immediately stopped the game and prevented any further abuse towards me. The ref sent him off for foul and abusive language. No caution was given to me.

Anyone who is foul-mouthed and is abusive deserves to be sent off. You made the right desision in showing the red card towards them, well done.

 

[BlueJ]

I totally agree with your decision, but I didn't think you were meant to show cards to anyone but the players on the pitch?!

 

[TBV_Dan]

I totally agree with your decision, but I didn't think you were meant to show cards to anyone but the players on the pitch?!

What????????

 

[Gremlin]

I totally agree with your decision, but I didn't think you were meant to show cards to anyone but the players on the pitch?!

Apparently Neil Warnock is on the phone to his lawyers right now.

 

[Forever A Shrimper]

I totally agree with your decision, but I didn't think you were meant to show cards to anyone but the players on the pitch?!

News to me, in ref training (Yes, there is a training course) we were told that if you give a red card no matter who it is too a card must be shown.

 

[HudsonNo1]

You made the right decision in sending the person off, its stupid to even think of saying that to a 7-year-old who is just out there enjoying themselves playing football.

Abit off the subject but is there any numbers or anything you could get hold of regarding ref courses in Essex, something ive been thinking about for a while now and im not getting anywhere sitting around. Whats the course like BTW i.e toughness and time etc..?

Cheers PB

 

[Up the Shrimpers]

Unbelievable.
Yet another instance highlighting my hopes for my son NOT to play football when he grows up.
Whatever happened to enjoying the game?
With any luck we'll be going to Fossett's on a Sat then off round the country watching motor sport on a Sunday.
Having played the game for 30 plus years i've got to say the agressiveness and abuseful behaviour of it's participants of recent years has got worse and i get disheartened by it all.
When i grew up the women on the line would just shout "kick it!"

My son has been playing mini soccer for the past 5 years and there have been no major problems on or off the field. For most part the 120+ games he has played plus 25+ tournaments have been played in a very friendly manner with some good friendships built up not only within his own team but also boys from OTHER teams.

Within the Southend area there are well over 2,000 children aged 7 - 10 playing mini soccer on a regular basis and the behaviour of the children and adults is much better than their Premier League (or League 1) idols.

Most clubs have a code of conduct for players and parents any issues are usually sorted out within the clubs.

I have no doubt that now he has stepped upto 11 a-side matches there may be more behaviour issues, but so far so good.

 

[Davros]

I have seen that too, a manager pulling two parents apart from opposite sets of fans. I any of you have seen Green Street it reminded me a lot of the scene where two parents, one a Millwall fan and the other a West Ham fan, proceed to fight in the middle of the pitch whilst there kids are playing.

I believe that was the Chelsea fan and a Millwall fan in the Football Factory, but good point.

I would say footballers could learn a lot from watching a bit of rugby. The respect for the ref, and lack of tolerence shown by the ref for disrespect could teach them a thing or two.
As someone who i cant remember once said... "Rugby... a thugs game played by gentlemen... Football.. a gentlemens game played by thugs" .. couldnt be more apt in this day and age of Cashly Cole anger!

 

[manor15]

I play every Sunday and when I was 13 I did, what in my opinion was 1 of the best tackles I have ever made nobody complained but the referee blew up and gave a freekick to the other team. I was shocked and some of my teammates did get a bit annoyed with the ref as it was ight on the edge of the box but I told them to calm down. He then gave me a lecture and booked me but I had given up telling him I actually won the ball. When the ref produced the card 1 parent shouted serves you right you w***** but I ignored it and the parent coninued shouting other swer words and names at me throughout the game. When I made the ref aware of it he said get on with the game. The opposition manager then told me to f*** off and threw the ball at me, missing, one of my teammates dads then said come on ref do something about this and the ref sent him away from the pitch.
Another manager in our division is notorious for his foul play and swearing at other parents and was chucked out by his old team but these were the only incidents like it I have ever really heard of and most refs are very good with this.

 

[Thorpe Groyney]

My lad is on West Ham's books and, as bad enough youth football parents are, they are far worse at academy level. The majority, as opposed to a small minority in youth leagues, have assumed that as their kid has made it into a pro academy side they're more or less Premier League and international stars already so woe betide anyone who gets in their way. Opponents, managers, officials, they all get it from a huge amount of people who should know far far better.

I still remember one instance where a late challenge went in on my lad (a keeper), his nose started bleeding, and the parent next to me was complaining he took a dive and was play acting, interspersed with what'd he do to him if he was on the pitch. I said not a word of abuse, instead I cuffed him on the back of the head and said "I'm his Dad, try it with me and see how far you get." "You f***ing what?" came the reply. "Forget the match, say that to me, and see how much you end up bleeding." Silence. "Scared now are we?" I asked. More silence.

The lino flagged. The ref came over and listened to the lino. He marched over and I thought I was in trouble. Instead he pointed to the other parent. "You sir. A player has a blood injury and you threaten him in front of his parent. Leave the ground now. I have your son's name and I'll make sure you never ever attend a match he plays in again. You sir, are a disgrace." As he trudged off, expletives under his breath, I shouted out "I'll give you 30 seconds head start and then the gun's coming out." which thankfully amused everyone.

Well done on your red card. I think chinning such parents should be permissible too.