how did you kill it off?!

[stu blue]

u will see from here i have been a member for ages but dont post much...but i am looking for advice now!! a bit of background is that i have been with steady girlfriends since 14 and lived with three girls (obviously not at the same time or i wouldnt have time to be on here), never been engaged/married or have any children. anyway i have always finished it for the right reasons as they are all top girls. i have now been sort of on the other side of the fence ( eg i told her it wasnt working and was hoping for reassurances, but she agreed it wasnt going anywhere) and it is horrible...cant help myself from checking her facebook etc or txting her here and there. anyway what worked best for you...deleting phone numbers/facebook/prentending you are now a babe magnet, grovelling etc any good news stories will be very appreciated or bad ones to maybe make me feel better!! up the shrimpers and hate the hammers even more than col u

 

[Firestorm]

A lump hammer and a six foot hole in the garden usually does the trick

 

[OldBlueLady]

Hey Chap,

I have a few suggestions, all of which will work, so take your pick..

Have you considered using prostitutes? If you can get yourself in with a couple of those, you should be able to get as much tail as you were previously.
How about developing a drug habit? I believe a serious cocaine or heroin addiction will make you forget your ex even existed.
Try going gay. From what I can tell, it's not worked out for you with the ladies so far, in fact you seem to be a one man disaster area as far as the bints go, so why not bat for the other team and see how it goes.

Hope this helps

Kind Regards

I so want to give this +rep but have to spread it around first!!! Love it! :D

 

[DTS]

Right I am going to give a sensible reply.

Been in the same boat. Personally I decided the best thing to do was to delete her number and move on. There is no point deluding yourself if things are not right. At the end of the day all this time spent with someone who its not right with are a total waste of time as its going nowhere.

I had a on off mrs of seven years from the time I was 18 and we broke up and then started back together more times than I can count. All the time I was thinking this is it etc...This time its for real etc etc...

Anyway after 7 years of on/off I basically woke up to myself. I had 12-18 months of being a single bloke which I loved and spent all the times either out with the lads, on dates etc or watching Southend.

Finally met the woman of my dreams on a platform at London Bridge 4 years ago. Im now married with two kids and got to say life is pretty perfect. Cant think of anything in life I am not happy with (bar the running of SUFC) and it all came about as I finally moved on.

My two tips would be

1) Enjoy your single time as its gone to quick and you will never get it back
2) Get out there and shag anything that moves to get it out your system.

 

[TrueBlue]

u will see from here i have been a member for ages but dont post much...but i am looking for advice now!! a bit of background is that i have been with steady girlfriends since 14 and lived with three girls (obviously not at the same time or i wouldnt have time to be on here), never been engaged/married or have any children. anyway i have always finished it for the right reasons as they are all top girls. i have now been sort of on the other side of the fence ( eg i told her it wasnt working and was hoping for reassurances, but she agreed it wasnt going anywhere) and it is horrible...cant help myself from checking her facebook etc or txting her here and there. anyway what worked best for you...deleting phone numbers/facebook/prentending you are now a babe magnet, grovelling etc any good news stories will be very appreciated or bad ones to maybe make me feel better!! up the shrimpers and hate the hammers even more than col u

I had the self same thing mate I posted about earlier in the year - best advice and trust me IT WORKS! just delete all contact with the person and try to move on - it does get better in time.

 

[THE SEVENTIES NORTH BANK]

The best thing to get over a very painful break-up is to go and do things that your partner didn't like you doing, but you wanted to do, (Not the things Tarquin mentioned tho, lol). Have a chill out short break.
Then go to places where you can mingle with females and start dating again. There's nothing better than when you first start going out with someone, and your mind will soon be off your old girlfriend. If after a short time and the new one isn't working, then go and get another. Just get out there, don't stay at home moping. Remember, the more relationships you have, the more chance of finally meeting the right one and having a very happy life, like has happened to Dave the Shrimper.
Hope this helps stu, and best of luck.

 

[Mad Cyril]

I'd go out and get a tattoo of her name done.

 

[stu blue]

tarquin..always love your posts, i would turn to H but i dont like needles, perhaps chasing the horse isnt out of the question though!! oh and was the homo option an invite? not sure im ready to go that way at the mo but would be good to know i have options!!

Firestorm, i am having a bit of a ground force moment as the garden is a right mess, so maybe ill swap the decking plan for a nice new patio and some lime.

DTS, she wasnt a ticket inspector that you had to sweet talk to get out of a fine was she?...good luck to you mate and cheers for the happy ending reply, and the positive outlook...however im thinking of taking up tarquin's advice....so whos the bloke in the avatar!? ha ha

true blue...have u recovered from the monster arm wrestling session in my local after the game saturday (now that does sound camp, maybe i am turning!!)

seventies, your right, i love the excitedness (if thats a word) of starting out with a new girl, but you make moving from girlfriend to girlfriend sound sooo easy...maybe if i take up tarquins first posting bout the toms this maybe easier than i first thought!!

mad cyril...oh dear...did make me giggle though!!

opted for FB delete and going zante on a last minute holiday with mates, not sure if it made things better or worse...loads of proper fit women but all a bit young (and chavy) apart from a small percentage....however, i have learnt if the answer is not in the bottom of this bottle it will be in the next (or so i hope) lol

 

[Tommy2holes]

Mate to be fair i dumped my first girlfriend of 4 years because she wanted the whole marriage and kids thing and at 22 i thought **** that.
I saw all of my mates spreading stds like wildfire and thought i want to be single.

I then spent the next three years regretting it and trying to get back together , but one of my so called pals jumped in and got engaged to here with the immortal line " dunno why you left her , but im ****ing glad you did" just to cheer me up.

I then had another 4 year relationship with the mother of my five year old son which can only be best desrcibed and ****ing turbulant.
I had a similar thing to you with that one. Moved out moved back in and so on, but it was never going to work.

I then bizzarly met back up with my first girlfriend who had obviously finished with my ex friend and we tried again. TBH mate the spark had gone , but it was great to finally realise i had made the right choice in the first place.

I have been with my current girlfriend for some 2 years now , and having been there done it and got the kid to prove it , i would say this to you mate. Only look at the reasons why you broke up in the first place or where having problems rather than dwell on the good times.

Have some serious you time and go out and have some fun and when your ready you will meet the right person.

 

[TrueBlue]

tarquin..always love your posts, i would turn to H but i dont like needles, perhaps chasing the horse isnt out of the question though!! oh and was the homo option an invite? not sure im ready to go that way at the mo but would be good to know i have options!!

Firestorm, i am having a bit of a ground force moment as the garden is a right mess, so maybe ill swap the decking plan for a nice new patio and some lime.

DTS, she wasnt a ticket inspector that you had to sweet talk to get out of a fine was she?...good luck to you mate and cheers for the happy ending reply, and the positive outlook...however im thinking of taking up tarquin's advice....so whos the bloke in the avatar!? ha ha

true blue...have u recovered from the monster arm wrestling session in my local after the game saturday (now that does sound camp, maybe i am turning!!)

seventies, your right, i love the excitedness (if thats a word) of starting out with a new girl, but you make moving from girlfriend to girlfriend sound sooo easy...maybe if i take up tarquins first posting bout the toms this maybe easier than i first thought!!

mad cyril...oh dear...did make me giggle though!!

opted for FB delete and going zante on a last minute holiday with mates, not sure if it made things better or worse...loads of proper fit women but all a bit young (and chavy) apart from a small percentage....however, i have learnt if the answer is not in the bottom of this bottle it will be in the next (or so i hope) lol

Oh you was there for that - how did I do?

 

[GBJ]

Oh you was there for that - how did I do?

LOL ****ing terrible haha. I'm sure Girth and his spaghetti arms beat you?

 

[stu blue]

Oh you was there for that - how did I do?

to be honest mate, i was a bit worse for wear and i was a bit of a distance away...but i didnt hear anyones hand get slammed to the table so you couldnt have done that bad!! I did notice someone giving their oppersite number a two against one hand advantage though...it was just like sly stallone in over the top!!

Tommy, with friends like that....!! I hope your not still mates, especially after that lovely well thought out line he gave you?

 

[Tommy2holes]

to be honest mate, i was a bit worse for wear and i was a bit of a distance away...but i didnt hear anyones hand get slammed to the table so you couldnt have done that bad!! I did notice someone giving their oppersite number a two against one hand advantage though...it was just like sly stallone in over the top!!

Tommy, with friends like that....!! I hope your not still mates, especially after that lovely well thought out line he gave you?

No mate i havent seen him in years. Wanted to give him a five knuckle face lift for ages , but couldnt find him lol. All water under long forgotten bridge, infact im friends with her now and chat regularly . Funny how things work out.

 

[jassyfa1]

I would say give it time, as time is a great healer......unless your bleeding to death then its a bit of a bugger