Does a partners past sexual conquests matter.

[DTS]

Right - Mate of mine who lives in South London has just met a new bird. They have only been out a few times but all is going well - Or at least it was.

They went out early this week and were talking about partners when she dropped the bombshell that she has slept with over 50 men (She is 25). Sine then he cant get it out of is mind and is thinking of jacking her in as a result.

Personally whilst I dont think anyone in there twenties expects a virgin partner you dont like to think that the apple of your eye hasnt done the rounds.

So my question is does the amont of partners your partner has had have any baring on the way you feel about them. Also what is the cut of point of too many.

Happy Voting
DtS

 

[Spaceman Spiff]

I think the first thing to do if you're asking yourself the question posed by this thread is ask yourself how many you've slept with - and if she came up with that answer would you be happy?

Really though, this is not a question you should ever ask. Its a private matter for her (and indeed your past conquests are a private matter for you).

The only sexual partners of theirs that you have any right to enquire about are the ones she has bedded while with you...

 

[South Bank Hank]

I'm still laughing at the phrasing of the options.

"50 is off putting!"

:hilarious:

 

[Slipperduke]

I'm not bothered at all, but to be fair, I would never ask. No good can ever come from asking that question.

 

[Pubey]

no more than 10 for me

 

[Mad Cyril]

I suspect your friend is more actually concerned where he ranks on the leaderboard than the actual number of competitors.

 

[Desert Shrimper]

It's a tricky one...whilst nobody likes the idea that their partner has been passed around like a proverbial w**k-sock I have to agree with Messrs Spiff and Duke here, in some ways it's irrelevant and none of our business.

I think most women probably lie about this one anyway, I know I always did (before I met Mrs In The Pram Shop of course, whereupon I always told the truth :angel: ) There's something about that question that's so loaded only a tactical response is appropriate.

:thump:

 

[Slipperduke]

There's something about that question that's so loaded only a tactical response is appropriate.

:thump:

Too true. If there's anyone here in the early stages of a relationship, for Christ's sake, don't do what I did. Don't be all coy about it, evade the question, inadvertantly make it an issue and then drunkenly admit to having serially-doinked your way around the country for ten years.

Just lie. Just say '6' and follow it with 'and none of them were as good as you.'

 

[callan]

Too true. If there's anyone here in the early stages of a relationship, for Christ's sake, don't do what I did. Don't be all coy about it, evade the question, inadvertantly make it an issue and then drunkenly admit to having serially-doinked your way around the country for ten years.

Just lie. Just say '6' and follow it with 'and none of them were as good as you.'

I just phoned the Missus to find out how many she has ''doinked'', the lying slaaag answered ''6, but none as good as me''.
My life is in ruins....

 

[Slipperduke]

I just phoned the Missus to find out how many she has ''doinked'', the lying slaaag answered ''6, but none as good as me''.
My life is in ruins....

:hilarious:

Coffee all over the keyboard!

 

[DTS]

I just phoned the Missus to find out how many she has ''doinked'', the lying slaaag answered ''6, but none as good as me''.
My life is in ruins....

Classic - Almost spat my tea. :)

 

[EastStandBlue]

I'm sure your mate would rather be in the top 5 of 50 than the top 10 of 30...

 

[* ORM *]

Well I was always told slags and easies spread diseases.

 

[Desert Shrimper]

Just lie. Just say '6' and follow it with 'and none of them were as good as you.'

Hmmmm, interesting. I used "about 6" as my builit-in response to that question for about 7 years worth of ladies during my most prolific and debauched phase. Is 6 the accepted industry standard or is this just a case of great minds lying alike?

It backfired on me when an ex did a tally up of the conquests she knew of and came up with a lot more than 6.

Bottom line: say "about 10, probably less if anything" and that should see you through. Vague wins every time on this one.

 

[Einstein]

Right - Mate of mine who lives in South London has just met a new bird. They have only been out a few times but all is going well - Or at least it was.

They went out early this week and were talking about partners when she dropped the bombshell that she has slept with over 50 men (She is 25). Sine then he cant get it out of is mind and is thinking of jacking her in as a result.

Personally whilst I dont think anyone in there twenties expects a virgin partner you dont like to think that the apple of your eye hasnt done the rounds.

So my question is does the amont of partners your partner has had have any baring on the way you feel about them. Also what is the cut of point of too many.

Happy Voting
DtS

Blimey Dave, this was a real toughie. Usually the Friday vote is just, read, vote, move onto next thread. This one had some real thinking involved for me!

I have an cynical view to the ones saying answer 'tactically' though. If you have to answer tactically then surely that means you are ashamed of your past? In my opinion, you are then regretting past 'mistakes'. Personally, I am pretty upfront about things from the start, and I expect her to be too. I make my own judgements then and I am sure she does too. (And please don't give me the should not judge people, everyone does, it's part of the human race!). I think it can be a big obstacle for many people and I personally wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who has sh*gged every other guy who walks past me in the street! IMO, once you tell one lie about something, you'll find it increasingly easy and then tell another, and then another, and another etc etc. Soon you are just caught up in a web of lies, which will only lead to it spilling out at some point in life IMO.

Personal opinion, but if I was your mate, I would be running for the hills. Should have spotted the talent at 18 and doinked her when she was much more innocent! :thump:

Fair play to the bird for actually admitting it IMO. At least if your mate does decide to go for it, he could end up falling for her for who she is, not what she is not.

 

[MrB]

I'm in illustrious company! :D

 

[number11]

I guess this in part also related to their age and whether they had a long term relationship.

If I was looking for someone as my girlfriend then I would categorically not continue if they said it was over 50. Obvioulsy I wouldnt just walk out as soon as they gave their tally, (but Id make my excuses after one last go on the bike!).

If the tally is high then the likely hood is she is not someone that can commit to one guy and therefore would not be for me. Id much rather go out with someone who has had a couple of long term relationships.....when despite theoretically they would have had more sex, it just to me makes her seem more decent, and the thought that you have earnt the right to be with them rather then she would drop them for anymore who offered to buy her a drink!

Generally though I cant see anything to be gained from the question unless you want confirmation that your girlfriend is a bit of a slag! If I met a girl my age (27) and she said she had slept with 20 people, I might think that slightly high, but then based on a sexually active 10 years that is only two people a year. If you like the person, dont ask!

 

[Firestorm]

50 is pushing it assuming she wasn't putting it around as a kid you are looking at something like 5 different blokes a year or 1 every 10 weeks for 10 years and thats assuming there was not a long term monogamous relationship in there.......

Would an answer like "I dunno i didn't keep count and anyway most of the time I was too ****ed to remember" be acceptable

 

[Blue Missy]

Does it really matter all that much? So she went and had a good time and slept with a lot of people - doesn't mean that she's not ready to settle down now or that she's a bad person. Just that she likes sex!

I don't think it should really matter how many she's been with as long as she has been careful and hasn't picked up any nasty 'germs' along the way!

My opinion? If your mate liked her before the revelation, then there's no reason why he shouldn't carry it on and see how things go - have some fun and maybe 'benefit' from her 'experiences'!

 

[Prodigal Son]

And has the high level of frequent activity given her an excellent level of experience? If she is good in the sack as a result your mate should take that into consideration but I was once with a girl with a bit of form who was cack in the sack in contrast to those with lower numbers who had typically perfected her art with a select one or two.

I also wonder if the girl in question has inflated the numbers to see what reaction she gets? Something along the lines of would he still like me if I was a slapper? Women of today are rather strange and full of silly games.

He does seriously need to work out the ratio of men relative to years of sex life.

I once had a terrible experience, having a great holiday in Greece with a girlfriend,sunbathing and she turns to me and says I am good in the sack and the 6th best lover she has had. Only thing is she would not reveal the grand total leaving me in a state of underperformance for the remainder of the holiday as it was a no win situation in that if it was 8,that did not say much about me, and if it was 108, I did not feel great either!

Suffice to say (is that the same as ''like I say?'') we did not last long after that.